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Change arrives in our lives through two different doors: the one we open willingly and the one that swings open uninvited. This is an important distinction, simple and profound, which shapes how we navigate the constant transitions in our lives.

The changes we initiate are the fruits of our intentions and choices —career pivots, relationships we nurture, habits we cultivate, are far from being free of their challenges but remain fundamentally expressions of our agency.

Then there are changes thrust upon us—job losses, health crises, global disruptions. These arrive unannounced, indifferent to our readiness.

As humans, we instinctively resist unwelcome change. We fight against it with tensed muscles and spinning minds in the search for alternatives that no longer exist. 

In this resistance – this refusal to accept what already is, we simply create a prison for ourselves. What you resist persists they say, not because the change grows stronger, but because your attention remains fixed on something you cannot alter.

A tree that doesn’t bend . Where I live there are plenty of trees that don’t bend with strong winds, and guess what. They all eventually break.

Similarly, resisting inevitable change depletes us of energy and attention. The energy we spend fighting what cannot be changed equals the energy unavailable to us for creating what can be.

Personal power exists not in controlling external circumstances but in directing internal focus. When change arrives uninvited, we face a choice more consequential than the change itself: where to direct our attention next.

Look how water doesn’t struggle against an obstacle but simply flows around, over or under to continue its journey. This is not passive acceptance but intentional redirection of energy.

So then, the question becomes: What change can I initiate today? What small step is available within my control?

Each morning presents an opportunity for intentional action. Go and write for fifteen minutes, initiate that difficult conversation you’ve been putting off, go find a new approach to a old problem. These small choices, accumulated daily, create paths more powerful than grand gestures of resistance ever could.

When an unexpected change arrives, notice the physical sensations that accompany your resistance—tightened shoulders, shallow breathing, narrowed perspective. These sensations signal energy being misdirected. Rather than fighting what cannot be undone, redirect that energy toward what can be created.

Those who master change understand that freedom doesn’t come from controlling external events but from choosing where their attention flows. By focusing on self-initiated changes—however small—we reclaim agency in the world.

This approach doesn’t eliminate problems or prevent unwelcome changes. It simply prevents them from becoming the centre around which our lives revolve.

What could shift in your experience if, instead of struggling against the unchangeable, you redirected that energy towards what you can create? 

Take this as my invitation to release what can’t be controlled and embrace the power of what can.

From personal experience I can promise you that by accepting this invitation you’ll find your own way to a life defined more by conscious creation than reaction.

The door of possibilities always opens when you dare to push it.

Some of you have asked why my YouTube videos tend to be shorter than most you’ll find online. The answer is simple, yet it touches something profound that I’ve been contemplating lately.

Time is our most precious currency. I feel this truth deep in my bones now more than ever.

Unlike money or work or even love, we cannot create more time. It moves forward relentlessly, never pausing, never yielding to our wishes for more. Twenty-four hours—that’s what we each receive daily, no exceptions, no bonuses for good behaviour.

This awareness shapes how I create content for you. I don’t want to waste a single second of your day with unnecessary words or tangents. Your time matters to me because I know exactly how valuable it is.

My brevity comes from respect—both for my time and yours.

But this raises a question I find myself returning to often: Are we using our time effectively?

There’s no right or wrong answer here. Time passes whether we’re mindful of it or not. Life continues its forward motion regardless. But I wonder if you ever pause—even for just ten or fifteen seconds—to consider whether how you’re spending your hours truly serves you in this moment.

Sometimes I catch myself at the end of a busy day, unable to recall where the hours went. Other days, I’m struck by how present I felt in each moment, how the quality of my attention transformed ordinary experiences into something meaningful.

When I’m truly honest with myself, I recognise that awareness is the first step toward change. Simply noticing how we relate to time can shift everything.

If you’re reading this and feeling a gentle nudge to examine your own relationship with time, I invite you to take that pause. Perhaps tomorrow morning, before the day’s demands take hold. Or tonight, as you settle into the quiet before sleep.

And if you’re looking for support in finding a rhythm that better serves your life, please know I’m here. We can explore this together, finding patterns that honour the limited time we have while maximising its potential.
After all, the clock is ticking for each of us. The question isn’t whether time will pass, but how we’ll choose to fill it with meaning.

I am slow learner. This realization settled over me during my morning walk today.

With each step, I paid attention to where I felt energy in my body, letting thoughts float by without grabbing onto them. Just noticing. Just being present.

I’ve watched others grasp new concepts quickly, their minds racing ahead while mine is still lacing up its shoes. That’s never been my way. For me, understanding comes through doing—not from books stacked on shelves or manuals with highlighted paragraphs or guides promising quick mastery.

When I want to learn something, I need to live it. I need to work it into my muscles and nerves, usually more than once. The knowledge needs to settle into me through experience, through trial and error, through showing up repeatedly.

For a long time, this slowness felt like a failing. I’d mentally beat myself up, seeing my gradual pace as something to fix or overcome.

Not anymore.

There’s something powerful in recognizing your own natural rhythm and making peace with it. My slowness isn’t a defect—it’s just how I’m built, how I process the world.

And that simple acceptance feels like putting down a heavy backpack I didn’t even realize I was carrying.

I am slow. And that’s okay.

I was thinking about this phrase we all use – “getting back to nature.” I’ve said it myself countless times, usually when I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed by life. But lately, I’ve started questioning what we really mean by that.

What seems to be true for me is this: we can’t actually “get back to nature” because we are nature. Just like trees, rivers, and mountains, we’re part of this living world. Every time we breathe, we are sharing air with every other living thing on Earth. The water we drink and the air we breathe have cycled through countless other forms of life. Not to mention that even our bodies are home to billions of tiny organisms that live on our skin, under our fingernails, in our guts.

This separation we’ve created in our mind is a cultural artifact that comes from philosophical and religious traditions, which put humanity at the centre of everything and consider humans as superior to everything else in the rest of the natural world. They say we are as its masters or observers, not just another aspect of it.
This way of thinking has profound consequences that are leading to environmental destruction, exploitation, and a fundamental misunderstanding of our true nature. I also believe it leads to the sense of loneliness and isolation that many of us suffer from.
We may live in cities and use technology but they are as much a part of nature as a beaver’s dam or a bird’s nest – just more complex versions of what other species do.

Believing we are separate from nature is like believing that my left hand isn’t part of my body – it just doesn’t make sense, does it?

Science is slowing catching up too. The more we learn about ecology and biology, the more we see how everything is connected. From the smallest microbes to the largest ecosystems, it’s all one big network, and we’re woven right into it.

Right here, right now, you, your family, the trees, the sky, the cloths you wear, the rivers, the rain, every other animal out there – all of it is nature.

So maybe next time you find yourself saying “I’m going back to nature,” remind yourself “you never left”.